when the mom has ADHD
The words "imposed structure" make me cringe. My mom had us kids on a pretty strict schedule at different seasons of our life and homeschool journey. At one point, she made us get up at 5 in the morning. We were done with school by ten, which was great, but I hated it. I was so sleepy in the mornings no matter how much rest I got the night before. Even when we didn't practice 5 am wake-ups, we still had our days scheduled in half-hour increments. There are many things that I look back on with fondness and joy -- that is not one of them. But I do crave predictability. Routine. Rituals. I've always dreamed about being this organized mom who cheerfully tells her children of the days' adventures ahead; I've fantasized about our days just flowing and falling into place exactly as planned. That is attractive to me. I have expectations that I don't think are entirely unrealistic. At least, not for a neurotypical human being. I do like things "a certain w